Did you ever have a friend who would get into the dumbest situations and then expect you to extricate him over and over? Don’t get me wrong, if a brother is in trouble I will be there to help. But, if he does not listen to reason and if he continues to get into the same situation over and over again and again, do you feel used? What if he plans things you don’t agree with, things that you were not aware of, should you bear the cost? When do these expectations become abuse? When is it enough?
“Brothers forever” does not mean a life sentence to babysit an immature person. It does mean that we care about the best interest of a brother and that might mean saying no and putting up with the tantrum that ensues.
Proverbs says, “Wounds from a friend can be trusted, but an enemy multiplies kisses.” (27:6) “The lips of the righteous nourish many, but fools die for lack of judgment.” (10:21)